Breaking the Cycle for Your Children
Yana: Day 1 into this world
Your Child Didn’t Ask to Be Born, But They Deserve Your Best: Step Up and Be the Parent They Need
Look deep into the eyes of your newborn: the innocence, the light, the complete dependency, the love, and the expectation of unwavering protection—mentally, physically, and emotionally. As they grow, their expectations evolve. They begin to see a world filled with beauty but also chaos, love but also hurt, respect but also abuse, comfort but also abandonment. Their tiny brain is absorbing so much, and their little heart is feeling it all.
The question then comes down to WHY? Why are unhealed parents manipulating their children, using them as pawns in their unresolved pain? Why are innocent children caught in the crossfire of ugly divorces, forced to bear the weight of decisions they never made? Why are they carrying the burden of your trauma, feeling the echoes of your self-destruction? The truth is, they were simply in the line of fire—becoming unintended victims of a war they never signed up for. These children are now the bearers of adversity they didn’t ask for, nor deserve.
But here’s the thing: while adversity is painful, it doesn’t have to be destructive. If you look deeper, you’ll find that the challenges can hold invaluable lessons. Beneath the surface of hardship, there’s wisdom waiting to be uncovered—empathy, compassion, reasons why it happened and a profound appreciation for all that you’ve endured.
It’s in these moments of deep reflection that healing begins, and as you heal, you’re better equipped to guide others through their storms. You learn that pain can be a powerful teacher, and in your healing, you find the strength to pay it forward, ensuring others don’t suffer in the same way. By transforming your own wounds, you can break the cycle, turning adversity into a tool for growth and empowerment.
We are the spine of our children’s foundational years, the backbone they rely on when they stumble, their protectors in times of vulnerability, and their loudest cheerleaders when they succeed. From us, they draw their confidence, inner peace, joy, comfort, and love.
If we fail to provide that essential support—if we cannot be their safe harbor—their sense of self, their self-esteem, and their capacity for self-love will crumble faster than we can imagine. Our role in shaping their mental resilience is critical, and the impact of our presence—or lack thereof—lasts a lifetime.
We’ve explored the 'why,' but now let’s address the 'how.' How can we help our children heal, grow, and thrive? Start by remembering that you, too, were once a child. What were your needs, your deepest desires from your parents? How did they treat you, and how would you have wanted to be treated?
The answer isn’t always simple, but the key lies in empathy. Put yourself in their shoes. Feel what they feel, see the world through their innocent eyes, and recall the promises you made the day they first arrived.
Ask yourself: does their light still shine as brightly as it did when you first gazed into their eyes? Or has life dimmed it along the way? It’s not too late to reignite that spark. The simplest, yet most powerful gift you can give is to let them feel heard and seen.
Validate their experiences, no matter how small they may seem. Let them know that their feelings, thoughts, and dreams matter. Let them know life isn’t meant to be a rat race. Slow mornings and a regulated nervous system are also wins. This is where true connection begins, and from that place, healing and growth can flourish.
My hope is to inspire you. My purpose is to pay it forward with my wisdom and lessons. If you feel lost, alone, drained and need guidance, I’m here to help and heal.
Disclaimer: This article is the original work of Deepti Prakash and is intended for educational and informational purposes only. All content is protected by copyright law. Unauthorized use, reproduction, or distribution of any part of this work without permission is strictly prohibited. To share or reference this material, please credit the author appropriately and obtain prior written consent.